Don't Speak

I have a personal interpretation for this song. This song expresses perfectly what I felt. There was a guy, who changed my life. He was my soul brother, I felt alive again. But I didn’t have any other feelings for him than platonic. For a long time I tried to ignore the fact that he was falling in love with me. But some day even I could see it and I could feel that he wanted to tell me madly. I started to avoid him, because I didn’t want to lose my best friend. I didn’t want him to speak about it, because I thought that was the only way things could stay the same. He told me and things changed. But they were already different. I know that the emotional situation was and is worse for him, but I was really hurt, too.

the song was about tony kanal leaving her after seven years togther,its a break up song anthem now.i like the lines, 'i know you good, i know you real good' because thats what a really long relationship amounts too.the video for this song was about gwen being idolised and the band members being left behind.

Gwen Stefani (the HOTTEST rocker EVER) is writing about her break up with bassist Tony Kanal.. What's amazing is that they stayed together as a band and the two remain best friends to this day.

Damn I love this song. Reminds me of high school. People loving and losing, me trying to love and going insane in the process...not literally insane, but getting my feelings hurt trying to love someone.

A song about a break-up. Could be any sort but definitely a relationship. Pssssst! Pick yourself up and get on with this mess called life. ;) I guarantee,that they did. :)

cant get much better than this, this has been on the radio for like 6 yrs.. or more...... and its still one of the gretest songs

This song was originally written by her brother- It seemed to forshadow her current situation at the time with her relationship- her band.

//I can see us dying... are we? //

In the music video there is a Garden of Edan feel, living in paradise not in reality. These conditions can make things painful when reality throws you a curve ball. Awarness is very important and living in la la land can kill your core being if your not ready.

//Our memories They can be inviting But some are altogether Mighty frightening//

She already knows the ugly truth and won't allow it to swallow her up

//Don't speak// //I can't believe// //Well I don't want to know// //Don't tell me 'cause it hurts no no no//

Again she dosen't want anything sugar coated but yet refuses to listen to all the painful words -she has reached her limit.

//And I don't need your reasons Don't tell me 'cause it hurts It's all ending, I gotta stop pretending who we are... //

She played this song earlier at the gym, it's a breakup song. It's been eight months and we dont speak to each other. Really strong and emotional during the ending part "hush hush darling.. hush hush darling"... sounds comforting and hurt.

It's clear that this song is about mansplaining.

I've never really liked this band or this song. Found the vocals annoying and the lines repetitive.

But today, just 2 days after ending my first real relationship of 2.5 years, it happened so that I clicked on a link to lead me to this song. I can't help the crying. I'm not the first person to break up with someone they loved, but why does it hurt so bad listening to these simple lyrics?

I was the one who decided to end it. I don't regret it, it was long coming and necessary. No lies, no cheating, no insulting. But we couldn't communicate, we grew apart. I feel like if we had a big crazy fight it would be easier, but breaking up while you still love and care for them is incredibly hard. After the covid started, we had to stay in different cities and since our country is in a bad situation and our parents are religious, it was impossible to meet even for a few hours. I haven't seen him in a year, and it looks like I wouldn't for at least 3-4 months more. We broke up over text amicably without a fight but with lots of crying. Long distance sucks. Not being brave enough to talk about everything sucks. Being insecure and letting our insecurities get in the way of our relationship suck. We thought if we ignored the problems and kept them to ourselves we wouldn't fight and eventually it would get better, but no. The worst thing is knowing that it won't get any better after some point because the relationship started our that way, the foundation is weak. It's like deleting a small line on a script of code that breaks everything.

We knew it was gonna happen. We knew we had to say those words. We promised to stay friends, we promised to keep talking. But still, I know I lost my best friend and it will never be the same. I know I lost the chance of hugging that person one last time, not knowing the pandemic would last this long. Although at the moment I feel wounded and I think nobody will ever love me as he does, I know in time we will drift apart, have new people in our lives and have different lives. It's just painful to think you won't be even thinking of that often the person who was once your everything. Thinking about all the things that we could do differently, and the potential future we would have together is breaking my heart so bad that I cannot breathe. Everywhere is filled with memories, a color that looked good on him, a dessert he loved, thousand of photos some of them I can never delete, concert tickets, a drawing, a piece of paper, that blue sweater he gifted me... But like in the song, now that it has ended, we tend to miss the good memories and ignore the frightening ones that lead to this ending.

I feel like even years later, when I'm over this, I'll still regret all the things we did that fucked our relationship up. Please, people. Please always talk. Always communicate. Don't pretend you are someone else, don't pretend you don't care when there's a problem. Ignoring and pretending it's okay wont fix a thing. Talk everything through with the one you love because in time the smallest things become unfixable and all you can do is wish things turned out differently.

Sorry for any language errors. I'm just so sad and this song made me spill everything out.