Well, in my opinion this song is about being a young & maybe a little naive &/or introverted girl and finding yourself loving a man who is at first very charming, carefree & outgoing, and seems at first to be without limits, as in
"There was a time
you opened up every doorway
you didn't mind if everything
wasn't your way"
then that man starts to gradually become more introverted & shows their more possessive/obsessive side to you as the relationship progresses, even while they keep up the appearance of being carefree & outgoing to everyone else,
"Don't pull away
that goes against what you told me
I look in your eyes
I realize what you've sold me
is love in a vacuum"
so you confront them about the way they're acting and of course they deny it,
"I think you've changed
but you insist that
that's not true"
quite possibly they are an addict of some sort, my guess would be cocaine, &/or showing very obsessive behavior towards you (early on in the video for this song we see the man hanging a picture up, it is a very large portrait of Aimee & it is prominently displayed in his/their apartment for the duration of the song), thus their "love in a vacuum",
"You look so strange, so distant
that you're hardly you
Now I can see
how you have been acting different
You say it's me
but I know
that it isn't
it's love in a vacuum"
but still you are in love with them and don't want to leave them and you know that they are truly in love with you and they don't want you to leave them either, maybe they are convinced you can save them from themself, maybe they are so broken that the possibility of an overdose &/or suicide attempt is very real and you want to get through to them that their behavior not only dangerous but it is also just pissing you off and if they don't wise up they run the risk of loosing you, as in the lines
"You will be lonely
if you leave me alone", so you want to save them but can't get through to them due to the addiction &/or emotional problems they have,
"Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
love in a vacuum
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
You will be lonely
if you leave me alone
You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough"
you want them to understand that the love they are giving you is not enough when it is filtered through the vacuum of their drug addiction &/or emotional impairment,
"You will be lonely
you'll be the only one who feels this way
it's just not enough
and just wait
you will be lonely
Love in a vacuum
Love in a vacuum
and that's not enough
Love in a vacuum".
'Love In A Vacuum' for me is a hauntingly truthful acute argument on the loneliness of obsession and almost inevitable loss of love that follows people who are broken in some way or another; the obsessives, the coke heads, the drunks, addicts or the just-plain-old emotionally broken; a razor sharp, lyrically driven, deceptively poppy, yet ultimately-depressing-in-the-best-way song.
Quintessential Aimee Mann.
Took me to your crib
Guess it must have been a big deal (a big deal)
Got me starring in your wet dream
Now it's time to get real (get real)
I'm not looking for love
No, not today
But you call me up and have the nerve to say
"See you next Tuesday"
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
You call me a freak like that means something
Can't get your way so you're sulking
I think we know the rest
But get it off your chest
I don't give a shit
I love it when you call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
(Like it's a bad thing)
You show up everywhere I go
Get a grip, you're acting so weird (so weird)
I don't need your Jägerbombs
I think I can take it from here (from here)
You gotta learn to leave when the party ends
I don't really care what you tell your friends
Tell me again
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
You call me a freak like that means something
Can't get your way so you're angry
I think we know the rest
But get it off your chest
I don't give a shit
I love it when you call me a bitch
I think you hate me 'cause you want me
You only want what you can't have
I'm just being who I wanna be
But you can't deal with that
You call me a bitch like it's a b-b-bad thing
You call me a freak like it means something
Can't get your way so you're so pissed off
I think we know the rest
But get it off your chest
I don't give a shit
I love it when you call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
Guess it must have been a big deal (a big deal)
Got me starring in your wet dream
Now it's time to get real (get real)
I'm not looking for love
No, not today
But you call me up and have the nerve to say
"See you next Tuesday"
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
You call me a freak like that means something
Can't get your way so you're sulking
I think we know the rest
But get it off your chest
I don't give a shit
I love it when you call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
(Like it's a bad thing)
You show up everywhere I go
Get a grip, you're acting so weird (so weird)
I don't need your Jägerbombs
I think I can take it from here (from here)
You gotta learn to leave when the party ends
I don't really care what you tell your friends
Tell me again
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
You call me a freak like that means something
Can't get your way so you're angry
I think we know the rest
But get it off your chest
I don't give a shit
I love it when you call me a bitch
I think you hate me 'cause you want me
You only want what you can't have
I'm just being who I wanna be
But you can't deal with that
You call me a bitch like it's a b-b-bad thing
You call me a freak like it means something
Can't get your way so you're so pissed off
I think we know the rest
But get it off your chest
I don't give a shit
I love it when you call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
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You Call Me A Bitch Like It's A Bad Thing Lyrics as written by Nina Ossoff Elizabeth Mae Hale
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This song reminds me of my ex in so many ways. Every time he didn't get his way, he'd get angry. He was a total creep, and not to mention a stalker. We'd fight all the time. He always called me a bitch. Never really offended me though. I know I can be a bitch.
Ugh
Ugh
Oops...just supposed to be one 'ugh'
(IMO) \nThe song for the most part is about Lzzy dealing with creepy men she has met at gatherings, who feel entitled to her attention and sex, who when they realize she is not interested, get angry and try and blame her for their own ineptitude and call her a bitch. Lzzy, reclaims such and doesn’t let their manipulative creepy behavior affect her, as well as to get back at those who have degraded her for sticking up for herself and what she wants. I’ve always found this song to be a very confident showing of girl taking the piss out of pathetic creepy douchebags who see her as nothing but a sex object, and humiliating them for it.